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Okay, maybe DA will let you guys print this now.
Original: romanjones.deviantart.com/art/β¦
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Although there are many phrases that I liked here, my favorite was, "Interaction is just expensive and they don't want to spend it on something annoying." LOL
Likewise, your tone and word choice for this instructional how-to cartoon was very good for giving practical tips to extroverts. Also, you did a great job at poking a bit of fun at both sides; some folks would have made the mistake of a condescending we're-better-than-they-are-so-let's-make-fun-of-how-dumb-they-are. You took the moral high ground AND created a useful set of instructions! Well done!
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Thanks a bunch!
And thank you for mentioning the tone. I've learned to be careful to make statements that are direct without showing what side of a topic I'm on. Objective writing is important for explaining difficult and abstract subjects.
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Actually, I disagree about your efforts.
Perhaps you need to have someone google up a lot of the sites and Facebook pages using this pic. Β Your pic has been used to create a war between Introverts and Extroverts, with your pic used as "proof" that Extroverts are natural invaders who need to self-muzzle and that Introverts are helpless victims who need to do nothing at all in return.
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I just saw this on lolsnaps and had to look you up. This guide is absolutely fantastic! Will look through the rest of your work soon. Well done, and I hope you get the credit you deserve from your work being published on like-sites!
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Thank you! And have fun!
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Thank you!
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i know this person exactly how you described it
awesome job
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I have never seen these points explained so eloquently. It's very well done.
Can you explain the greater mystery of understanding the extroverted?
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I'll be explaining extroverts in the book version. I hope to get it published like a kid's book.
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But you really don't seem to understand Extroverts, and judging by your comments here, you really don't seem to see them as worthy of respect -- or even as having any real humanity.
Admittedly, my perspective has probably been skewed a little by the blogs I have seen posting this without giving you credit and then using it as evidence for their rage against anyone who dares to be an Extrovert.
(I do apologize that I don't have the URLs for you -- I may find this pic irresponsible, but you deserve credit for your work nonetheless, and I'm rather fond of most of your work although I hadn't thought to comment upon it until today.)
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What's the mystery? They like to make noise and find partying far better than reading books. If you don't smile, laugh, and make a lot of noise around them, they think you don't like them.
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One more clear example of how this pic has encouraged people to dehumanize Extroverts.
You clearly have no understand of Extroverts, and you seem to take great pleasure in dehumanizing them; take a psychology class and learn something other than your prejudices.
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A-bloo-bloo-bloo.
Seriously. It was a flippant post written with humor in mind. If you can't take a joke, I don't really care. Just don't try to make me feel bad for you since you seem unable to pull that bug out of your rear end.
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You need to read more, then.
There are people out there who genuinely believe what you wrote as the absolute, unvarnished truth.
It was reading their blogs that brought me to this disenheartening pic.
And SchroJones is so skillful in almost every other pic (at least, those in SchroJones' gallery).
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Are you saying extroverts aren't uncomfortable in silence? Especially in the company of others? If you're trying to say that, I suppose you've never had your friends gossip about you, saying you're a snob and CLEARLY don't like them because "they never want to talk to me!" Every time I'm in the company of an extrovert, ANY moment of silence has them shout "AWKWARD SILENCE!" as if a moment of lull in the conversation is automatically "awkward." No. It's really not to everyone; but it is to most extroverts.
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How typical. Just because it isn't a problem you personally run into now that you're older it's clearly not an actual problem, especially younger people. Just because you don't experience introverts being bullied in your adult life doesn't mean those same adult introverts' experiences being bullied and ostracized as children and young adults are now somehow invalid. Introverts grow up being told, basically, that they way they interact with other people is somehow wrong. I also kind of doubt there is some magical understanding between introverts and extroverts in your adult life. It's more likely those introverts have just learned how to be more extroverted to keep people from judging them harshly in social interactions, or they now completely avoid social interaction where they can (because as an adult, doing such is much easier. Excuses like being busy with work, children, etc and needing to recharge from a busy work week are very convenient).
Also, who are these people throwing these "pity-parties"? Is it the people saying "thank you for writing this and making me feel less alien about myself!" Because those aren't people asking for pity, those are people who have been bullied for a long time for being who they are and finding some validation in their feelings feels GOOD, and they want to express that. And know that most of the people on here ARE those who have to deal with "high school and undergrad types," because that's the majority of the internet population.
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Hmmm.
All the Introverts and Extroverts I currently know as adults, average age 30 to 40, so no, that never happens. Β Also, most of the people I know have learned in school about introversion and extroversion, because they went to schools where that was standard curriculum, so they never thought of the other perspective as alien or strange.
But most importantly, what I am saying is that all the Extroverts and Introverts I know have learned to share with each other their own expectations and needs, have learned to respect and accommodate each other, and have learned to recognize each other's humanity without pause -- in other words, the precise opposite of what SchroJones' pic advocates.
The Extroverts have learned to respect the Introverts' need for personal time without taking offense, and the Introverts have learned to respect the Extroverts' need for social time without taking any offense -- and without any pretenses of martyrdom.
If you have met Extroverts who are otherwise, and you are an adult, then you have met unusual ones. Β The majority of Extroverts -- like the majority of Introverts who have not decided to use (or misuse?) SchroJones' pic as ammunition for their self-pity parties -- do not behave that way, but at the same time, the dysfunctional ones tend to be the loudest. Β Dysfunctional Extroverts may be louder in person and dysfunctional Introverts may be louder online, but both are louder than the functional majority of Introverts and Extroverts.
If you are still dealing with high school and college undergrad types, yes, I concede that BOTH Extroverts and Introverts of that age tend to be unreasonable. Β If you have to deal with those types, I offer you my honest sympathy, and I hope it helps a little to read that, honestly, both types do become more sane when they have more life experience and fewer hormone madness moments to them.
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Erm, I just realized I accidentally replied to my own comment rather than yours earlier. I also made a typo in it, but seeing as there's no "edit" or "delete" function here, I'm going to hope this reply suffices as an apology for both mistakes, rather than spam this place with re-submitting the comment as a reply here.
To make this reply less wasteful, I just want to finish by saying that I do see where this picture could be causing problems elsewhere. However, the author of this picture is hardly responsible for how other people are interpreting and using this picture. Most of the lines in here are written with hyperbole in mind, hence the humorous inclusion of a literal "hamster ball" for the introvert to roll around in. The picture even shows extrovert/introvert interactions with both behavioral preferences in mind, so it's not like the picture is saying "INTROVERTS ARE VICTIMS AND SHOULD AVOID EXTROVERTS AT WHATEVER COSTS." I love interacting with extroverts. They are very fun for me to hang around in friendly interactions. However, there are times where those who aren't my friends seem to think I and others have a "problem" because we don't talk all. the. damn. time. Like, I'm at work. With adults (30+ year-old adults). And I hear them say to me "they're too quiet! Why do they never talk!?" I'm seriously too afraid to say, "Maybe they have nothing to say?" because I know that wouldn't suffice anyway. I'm also accused of being "sad" whenever I just want to have a quieter day at work for once. Your magical phrase of "it gets better" isn't entirely true, sorry to say. It's just the people you're around.
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And I do mean the "making noise" part seriously. You can't find an extrovert more uncomfortable than when there's silence.
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God, that's the truth.
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"God, that's the truth."
No, it's not.
How can you ask Extroverts to understand Introverts yet deny Extroverts the same respect and dignity? Β (You even highlight your disinterest in the humanity of Extroverts with a reference to God.)
Your response helps explain the dehumanization and vilification of Extroverts in this piece.
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Years later, I somehow came back to this and noticed this discussion. I'd like ro ask something:
name-already-chosen: "No, it's not."
So you are comfortable with people around you keeping a little distance and being silent for some prolonged time or barely say anything within an hour? Is that true?
If yes, what's actually the problem?
You seem to consider yourself as an "extrovert", so far I don't know why, but OK. Have you noticed that, in the comic, it's the introvert who crouches and hisses much like an animal, while the extrovert reaches out to 'em, standing upright and speaks as a human? I'm completely unable to see how you can find offense for the extrovert in that. Can you explain how?
AFAIU, this comic is meant for building understanding on both sides:
- The introvert needs to understand why the extrovert tries to involve 'em into much social interaction.
- The extrovert needs to understand why the introvert in uncomfortable with that and needs to be left alone, once in a while.
Admittedly this requires more of a change of behavior on the extrovert's side but a well-meaning extrovert who understands the problem should have very little difficulty with that.
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I forgot that this image is why i originally started watching you haha I have to post this to my facebook(link it i mean).. assuming you don't mind of course! All my friends will get a kick out of it considering that it is well known i am introverted lol I adore the energy in/out analogy 
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Of course you can post it!
Oh, I have a new website up: [link]
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I'd consider myself an introvert and the whole giving/taking energy thing is spot on (for me at least). It's not that I don't like social contact, it is just that being around a lot of people is physically and emotionally tiring for me somehow. Even staying at parties and talking too much can make me get sick or feverish... (maybe that's more of a physical issue rather than a personality trait...)
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Well, anxiety does cause metabolism increase and fatigue, so that makes sense.
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I linked to this on my Facebook. It received a whole lot of love and shares. Thumbs up and thanks!
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So you have a lot of friends who enjoy vilifying and dehumanizing Extroverts and who enjoy treating Introverts as royalty who deserve unilateral acceptance without ever returning it?
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Where is the vilifying and dehumanizing coming from?
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I'm not sure I consider myself an introvert exactly but I certainly value time alone probably more than anything else.
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I love you. Like, no joke. Just. I love you. OMG. I love you.
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aww, shucks
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OMG saw this on facebook but totally faving here ^^
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Thanks!
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It took my family years to figure all of this out on their own. Being around large groups is emotionally exhausting and you hit the nail on the head. Great comic.
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Thank you!
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I want to show this to my friend. hes supposed to be my best friend, but he pushes me to be social too much.
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Well then he needs to learn to think from someone else's perspective.
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Perhaps you could do the same?
Extroverts are people, too.
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I can finally understand what it takes to speak to my introvert friend. very illustrative way of speaking about it.
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