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How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!)
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Published: 2012-03-20 04:06:19 +0000 UTC; Views: 1235232; Favourites: 14547; Downloads: 6323
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I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.
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Couldn't have put it better myself.
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I can totally relate to the extroverted people by gaining energy from positive vibes, that's how I was at the London comic con. But I'm also perfectly fine by myself as well so I guess I'm a bit of both?
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This is beautiful. As an introvert, I relate to everything these instructions say and completely agree. To be honest, I had never known how to explain my exhaustion upon hanging out with extroverts and other people until now, but you make it completely logical, and easy to understand. Thank you so much for taking the time to craft this masterpiece.
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I mean no offense, but this comic basically claims that the world should adapt to your special needs, and i am afraid it goes the other way around.
Do not indulge yourself in thinking everyone around you should learn and follow this, being an introvert does not make you into a special cookie.
The individual adapts to the world, not the other way around.
I am not telling you this to "pick on you" or to make you feel bad, i promise i do not.
I am just worried out how many of you think you should start showing this to everyone you met and expect them to go with it.
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I think the main message is to coexist, and that introverts and extroverts should be able to interact in a way that makes both of them comfortable, but that's just my opinion. I agree with you that no one can expect someone to adapt to their personality constantly, but it is still critical that people learn that those who aren't too talkative or energetic aren't trying to avoid contact. I have an extroverted friend who exhausts me every time I hang out with her. She's a good friend, but it's always me making the effort to adapt to her needs, when really, the most efficient way to approach it would be for both of us to interact in a way that adapts to the other's social requirements. That is just my perspective though, and there really is no solid way to approach the dilemma.
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The problem is that you are the one putting extra-requirements on the table.
You say that the right solution is for us both to go 50/50 but is it truly 50/50 when you are the one causing the issue?
Do not get me wrong, i have two introver friends myself, and i do respect their needs and vital space, but i do so because i want to and because i feel that´s what i want to offer to my friends, not because it is to be expected or demanded off me.
But if we want to think it coldly, all those extra requirements are entirely on the introvert´s side so technically it cannot be 50/50.
Of course, there´s also the fact that, regardless of whether we have a label or not, we are all different and like different things so it may be that without realizing, i too unconciously "demand" certain things that my friends indulge me with, without perhaps being so direct about it, so i am not saying people should not make each other comfortable at all, and it is sweet to adapt to one another.
But i guess this comic just rubs me the wrong way since it transforms a courtesy into a duty, so to speak.
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I can see what you are saying, and I agree that no one should demand anything of one another, because that would be a rather unenjoyable friendship. I guess all I can say is that I one-hundred percent agree with what you say here: "Do not get me wrong, I have two introverted friends myself, and I do respect their needs and vital space, but I do so because I want to and because I feel that's what I want to offer to my friends, not because it is to be expected or demanded off me." I have never expected people to behave a certain way around me--but some of the people I interact with expect me to behave a certain way around them. Like you said, I behave that way around them because I want to hang out with them, not because it's expected of me. Frankly, I don't think it's anyone's fault; I simply believe that introverts and extroverts have yet to understand one another. This was an interesting conversation, and you put forth some very good points. I will continue to think of them and apply them in the future.
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This is great! eventhough as an introvert I need a guide to deal with the extroverted XD
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I used to be an extroverted person, but now more and more I see my self becoming more of an introverted person. I guess I have a smaller hamster ball because I'm more open to interaction, but still like things to be quiet...
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So introverts are "special" people now? K
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It makes me wonder if I'm an introverted or extroverted person...
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I'm gonna send this to my family so they can understand me better.
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Feeling this all too much...
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i am SO glad someone described this so perfectly! uvu
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I an an extrovert, while both of my older brothers are introverts.
I have found pretty much everything in this to be true for us.
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Ha, this is a fun and accurate way to describe it. I love it!
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Hmm you over simplify a few things. This maybe an attempt at humor but can lead to misconceptions. As a content producer people assume you are a relyable scorce subcontiously.
Reading this seemed to have the opposite effect on me...I didn't wan't to expend energy because as you pointed out "energy is precious"
I feelt alienated by these people like they were different, and that's not true.
Their were plenty of moments I enjoyed in this though.
-the chibi style is cute and engaging
-For people who don't take themselves too seriously this is humerous (unfortunately introverts are very self-conscious, so please treed carefully)
-it's over all well intentioned. At first I thought you were going to rip on introverts and was ready to defend them. But I see you genuinely care. But I feel like it could have been handled...softer.
Sorry if I come across as harsh but I felt I needed to mention a few things
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Well this sure is oversimplified! But for a certain kind of person, very accurate.
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YES ! (a thousand times)
Introversion is so often misunderstood...
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This is so good, really helpful and as so I am an introvert person. This is such a perfect way to make some of my friends understand that I dont hate them or that Im not trying to be rude when I stay quiet.
Just.. thank you!
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Thank you so much for making this I need to show this to my extrovert friends
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its funny how you speak about it as if it's a disease
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i'm home! (inside my hamster ball, of course)
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I need that hamster ball. Will it fit in a tiny cramped bus seat?
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In really want a giant hamster ball...
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If you mentioning about something they like/interested, they won't shut up for days.
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i love the HISSSSSS in the one panel
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INTROVERTS UNITE! Separately. in your own homes. XD
I want to get this put on a T-shirt.
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That's really great!
One of my close friends (possible love interest??) is an introvert too, and i probably missjudged some of his actions and behaviour before because of my cluelessness regarding the whole being an introvert thing.
So this 'guide' is actually really helpful, since im more of an extrovert and unfortunately can't read his mind and know what to think of some things he does.
Also many of the things you listed here, are what i observed in his behaviour as well, it all makes sense now
But i'll stop babbling on for now, and just say thanks!
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You have the most comments I have ever seen for any one submission on deviantart. For that alone I applaud you.
For the diagram, I also applaud as I know a few introverts. I think I myself am one, preferring nature and quiet to large social gatherings and loud areas.
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If I could favorite this thing a thousand times, I would
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So would I. Too bad about half the people here are probably introverts, myself included.
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I mean that they (introverts) already know this information, but very few extroverts already know this. Statistically, artists and people who like computers (read: AT LEAST half of dA) tend to be introverts (because introverts tend to like art and computers and solitary activities more). So this means that while it's really nice art and it's funny and informational, very few extroverts will ever see this, and therefore few will learn. I'm almost always hissing from the corner of my hamster ball, so I wish people knew this.
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Oh, ok, I got ya-I'm not sure I quite agree, but then there's a lot more there than just this one image; there's the whole book, that can be shown around wherever, so......eh-either way though, can't make people learn something if they don't want to, anyway
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This is actually really helpful, thank you
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Finally, something that actually explains it to people ;w;
My friends seriously think theres something wrong with me, and whenever I try to explain all of this to them - they literally don't get it
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Finally a way to tell my girlfriend that I don't hate her, is just the way i am, thank you! xD
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Why would anyone want to interact with an introvert? Let them stay in their hamster ball if they want to, none of us has the right to interfere in their lives or thoughts anyway.
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