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You know! It bother me how parent can exhibit hypocrisy and double standards to their own children or love-ones. They thing they have the right to asks their children with who they are hanging-out and where they are going but when their children do the same thing to them, they'll get defensive or tell me that it is not a big deal or isn't their business. I've observed and experience that a lot of adolescents and pre-teens experience this, since psychologists have found that youths of that age are able to sense fairness and unfairness very well. I sure a lot of people will tell me that parents are human too, they're not perfect, that they make mistakes and that we all should accept them for who they are, and not hold them to such high expectations but honestly that just an poor excuse to justify their action, since they should be modeling good behavior to us, and I sure there is going to be some idiot that they are going to tell me that parents can treat their children whatever they want, that they are not equal to their parents, and that they are just going to have to deal with it unless they can move out and live in their own.
But I'm gonna go ahead and call that bullshit on that one as the fact that these parents don't love their children if they believe they can do whatever they want with their children. Dear parents when you live in a house with impressionable children who look to you as the model for their behavior, you need to tone your rock star behavior down. Like, all the way down. Forget about whether the amp goes to 11 or not, it's time to turn the amp OFF and stop acting like a hypocrite person because you're planting a bad seed on your own children, and be hypocrites it's not part of your job it's just another lame excuse to justify your stupid shit and immature behavior. Your children will do what you taught them and the most powerful parenting doesn't come through a parent's words, it comes through the behavior of the parent and their action. Children observe how the adults around them behave and they take on and repeat those behaviors, even when they have been instructed not to do it.
Lead by example: If you don't want your children to be late at home then do not do the same thing!
If you don't want them to curse then don't curse.
If you don't want them to quit then don't quit.
If you want them to be kind to others then be kind to others.
Teach them to rise above adversity, animosity and to have a positive outlook when things are bleak. Don't be a hypocrite with them for whatever reason you have because you're planting a seed of hypocrisies and a superiority-complex to them, I mean if your children are getting grounded for drinking or smoking this becomes confusing when they witness these same behaviors in their parents. If parents are partiers and get late at home your children will do the same and they will see drugs and/or alcohol as feasible options for coping with stress and/or for having fun.
Most of you parents expect your children to follow through on your commitments, and yet many of you parents back out on commitments for your own benefit. When you parents never answer your child call, when you parents keep secret to your children, when you parents don't keep promises to show up and take part in your child's life, you are teaching your children that they are not worthy, and all this lack of commitment, punish them for something that you are also doing can also be demotivating for your children it could also elicit rebellion in important areas such as their own parents, school, sports, chores, and friendships.
If parents argue and fight with each other or with other or with their own children this is the exact behavior that children will repeat back to their parent and/or others. When your child is being attacked in any way, she/he immediately puts them on the defensive, and emotions are contagious so the child will take on the energy of the parent to defend themselves, and then get in trouble for it which it only going to cause more problem that fix it. If a parent doesn't want their children to fight and argue then the parent cannot show them this method of behavior as a viable option by using it themselves, and I sure that many parents believe that certain behaviors are exclusive to them because they are the adult but that is not true.
Think about how your actions influence your children and remember that children do what parents do and not what they say. I've seen an amazing amount of anger and resentment occur in children when they are corrected or get in trouble for doing the things the parents are doing, or act the way the parents act. Well at some point, your own children will begin to recognize the hypocrisy in your life specially when they reach teenager ages. I mean how many parents smoke while telling their children never to do it? How many parents drink while telling their children never to do it? How many parents condemn their children's lies while telling lies of their own? How many parents are asked by their children, "Did you do it when you were my age?".
The stupid and illogical philosophy of do as I say not as I do will not work not only because it's 100% illogical is also because your children will call you on the carpet. They will use your hypocrisy to discredit your authority, spoil your influence and they will not listen to you anymore. So, my point here is if you don't live on what you taught to your children, your children will disregard what you say and instead listen to what you do. Even knowing this, some parents makes critical errors in judgment in trying to justify or excuse their lifestyle to their own children. Don't think that your children will be convinced by your words when your actions tell a different tale.
Because remember that actions prove who someone is while words prove who they wanna be, and sure we all are hypocrites to some degree or another. But most people will admit that they believe in their hearts that something is wrong, yet haven't found the character or desire to stop doing it themselves because either they are pathetic or stupid. So, my advice is Let your children inspire you to be person you want them to be. It's not too late, you can change, learn and grow together! Also if my words anger you, and if my words sting? Let them. Someone need to give all you a reality check about parentis with The Reason You Suck Speech.

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You know! It bother me how parent can exhibit hypocrisy and double standards to their own children or love-ones. They thing they have the right to asks their children with who they are hanging-out and where they are going but when their children do the same thing to them, they'll get defensive or tell me that it is not a big deal or isn't their business. I've observed and experience that a lot of adolescents and pre-teens experience this, since psychologists have found that youths of that age are able to sense fairness and unfairness very well. I sure a lot of people will tell me that parents are human too, they're not perfect, that they make mistakes and that we all should accept them for who they are, and not hold them to such high expectations but honestly that just an poor excuse to justify their action, since they should be modeling good behavior to us, and I sure there is going to be some idiot that they are going to tell me that parents can treat their children whatever they want, that they are not equal to their parents, and that they are just going to have to deal with it unless they can move out and live in their own.
But I'm gonna go ahead and call that bullshit on that one as the fact that these parents don't love their children if they believe they can do whatever they want with their children. Dear parents when you live in a house with impressionable children who look to you as the model for their behavior, you need to tone your rock star behavior down. Like, all the way down. Forget about whether the amp goes to 11 or not, it's time to turn the amp OFF and stop acting like a hypocrite person because you're planting a bad seed on your own children, and be hypocrites it's not part of your job it's just another lame excuse to justify your stupid shit and immature behavior. Your children will do what you taught them and the most powerful parenting doesn't come through a parent's words, it comes through the behavior of the parent and their action. Children observe how the adults around them behave and they take on and repeat those behaviors, even when they have been instructed not to do it.
Lead by example: If you don't want your children to be late at home then do not do the same thing!
If you don't want them to curse then don't curse.
If you don't want them to quit then don't quit.
If you want them to be kind to others then be kind to others.
Teach them to rise above adversity, animosity and to have a positive outlook when things are bleak. Don't be a hypocrite with them for whatever reason you have because you're planting a seed of hypocrisies and a superiority-complex to them, I mean if your children are getting grounded for drinking or smoking this becomes confusing when they witness these same behaviors in their parents. If parents are partiers and get late at home your children will do the same and they will see drugs and/or alcohol as feasible options for coping with stress and/or for having fun.
Most of you parents expect your children to follow through on your commitments, and yet many of you parents back out on commitments for your own benefit. When you parents never answer your child call, when you parents keep secret to your children, when you parents don't keep promises to show up and take part in your child's life, you are teaching your children that they are not worthy, and all this lack of commitment, punish them for something that you are also doing can also be demotivating for your children it could also elicit rebellion in important areas such as their own parents, school, sports, chores, and friendships.
If parents argue and fight with each other or with other or with their own children this is the exact behavior that children will repeat back to their parent and/or others. When your child is being attacked in any way, she/he immediately puts them on the defensive, and emotions are contagious so the child will take on the energy of the parent to defend themselves, and then get in trouble for it which it only going to cause more problem that fix it. If a parent doesn't want their children to fight and argue then the parent cannot show them this method of behavior as a viable option by using it themselves, and I sure that many parents believe that certain behaviors are exclusive to them because they are the adult but that is not true.
Think about how your actions influence your children and remember that children do what parents do and not what they say. I've seen an amazing amount of anger and resentment occur in children when they are corrected or get in trouble for doing the things the parents are doing, or act the way the parents act. Well at some point, your own children will begin to recognize the hypocrisy in your life specially when they reach teenager ages. I mean how many parents smoke while telling their children never to do it? How many parents drink while telling their children never to do it? How many parents condemn their children's lies while telling lies of their own? How many parents are asked by their children, "Did you do it when you were my age?".
The stupid and illogical philosophy of do as I say not as I do will not work not only because it's 100% illogical is also because your children will call you on the carpet. They will use your hypocrisy to discredit your authority, spoil your influence and they will not listen to you anymore. So, my point here is if you don't live on what you taught to your children, your children will disregard what you say and instead listen to what you do. Even knowing this, some parents makes critical errors in judgment in trying to justify or excuse their lifestyle to their own children. Don't think that your children will be convinced by your words when your actions tell a different tale.
Because remember that actions prove who someone is while words prove who they wanna be, and sure we all are hypocrites to some degree or another. But most people will admit that they believe in their hearts that something is wrong, yet haven't found the character or desire to stop doing it themselves because either they are pathetic or stupid. So, my advice is Let your children inspire you to be person you want them to be. It's not too late, you can change, learn and grow together! Also if my words anger you, and if my words sting? Let them. Someone need to give all you a reality check about parentis with The Reason You Suck Speech.