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jujipup [2017-03-08 02:56:47 +0000 UTC]

Come around when you can, and be strong.  But find someone you can talk to when you are ready.  Your friends should be there for you when you need them, and who knows, maybe they've had something happen or are feeling certain ways and when you open up, they'll find that they can talk with you too.  Talk to a close relative, or like I mentioned before, talk with someone like one of us supporting you on here.  What happened to me was between 4-8 years old.  I had no idea what was going on was wrong.  It does have lasting effects.  I know when I first went to my doctor for being pregnant with my son.  I had my boyfriend (now husband) with me in the room and the doctor left saying to remove all my clothes so he could do an exam.  While he was away, I started crying and it took me a lot to work myself up to get it done.  Was glad he was with me or I don't know how I would of done it alone.  I'm always open to talk about what happened to me if you want to talk with someone who's had experiences with such things, or if you want to vent.  I don't know you in real life, so I can't go around saying anything or hurt you with it.  Sometimes neutral territory is helpful for venting.  I'm not trying to pressure you, but only wishing I could help even if its just being an ear or sharing mine with you so you don't feel as alone.

Any way you go about it, I do hope you find a way that helps you.  Until then, be safe.  Your art vents speak and many have felt those same emotions - but in no means does that denounce your own feelings or make what they do okay.  Your feelings are valid, and what they do is NOT okay.

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RestartBob [2017-03-08 02:15:46 +0000 UTC]

Talk to the friends! I'm sure they would be willing to be bothered. Counselors might help.. but if you can't do that, you should not feel obligated to. Venting is also good. Just, do what you can to help. Your feelings are valid.

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Balkeir [2017-03-08 02:14:48 +0000 UTC]

I hope you don't feel like you're overreacting because you have this lingering pain. Like Kitkabean said, it doesn't matter how long it's been, there are times when you will feel the pain and stress from what happened to you. Those feelings are not wrong and shouldn't be ignored, and you aren't weak for feeling that way. Your friends will not see you as a bother if you reach out to them. They are there for you to lean on them as much as you are there for them to lean on you. And I can speak from experience that they will feel relieved when you reach out to talk to them because likely, they know there's something wrong, but they don't want to press you or make you uncomfortable, and they want you to come to them at your own pace.

Friends are there to catch you when you fall, to hold you up when you're down. Your true friends will NEVER blame you for what happened or how you feel. I hold the same view as you do when it comes to talking to professionals. Which is alright too... Just as long as you reach out to a friend.

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Kitkabean [2017-03-08 02:03:25 +0000 UTC]

emotional trauma is emotional trauma. doesn't matter if it happened 2 years ago or 10, you're still in the right for feeling upset over it. talking to friends about it is good! though if this keeps bringing you down and bothering you, i really suggest talking to a councilor, even if the thought is daunting, because they can help you in-depth in a way friends without professional experience can... 

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