structuresque In reply to She-Elf176 [2015-04-14 16:48:12 +0000 UTC]

Thank you

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structuresque In reply to El-Niphrendil [2014-11-15 15:11:09 +0000 UTC]

My pleasure. I love your work.

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structuresque In reply to projectstar [2014-06-09 21:55:37 +0000 UTC]

No problem

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-07-22 22:50:49 +0000 UTC]

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-07-22 23:35:38 +0000 UTC]

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-07-23 09:05:38 +0000 UTC]

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-07-23 12:50:30 +0000 UTC]

I'm not saying that it's not wrong when someone gets falsely accused. But do you know how rare that is? There was a post on Tumblr showing the full amount, how many got trail, and how many are actually in prison. This wasn't just against women either. I don't give a fuck if it seems that only women are standing up against the unfairness of certain rape trials, at least they are. Why everyone else, is what? Turning a blind eye? Letting it pass. they don't think that it could have been them or a family member, this is someone else, it's not their problem.
A man or woman has a right to feel safe, and do what they want with THEIR body. They shouldn't be thinking, "what if...", and the only people who have made it that way is the law, and society outcasting it by saying "what about the rapists life". Making it the victims fault.
I don't want to bring up any personal experience, because it didn't go that far, he did step back but only AFTER I'd physically pushed him away, he wasn't listening to me saying 'no' and we weren't drunk. I never "under-dress" because I'm not comfortable like that; I wear jeans and baggy band shirts. Did I deserve it? Because I was afraid that he didn't step back when I said no.

No, THAT shouldn't happen to ANYONE. NO-ONE, man or woman, should be falsely accused of anything. No-one should think, "I wish I never did that. Oh, I'll say he raped me." Because THAT is how OTHERS get let off. You seem to forget that not everyone is like that though, if they do it, they're in the wrong and yes, they deserve to be punished. I've always thought that, people who falsely accuse someone should be punished. Stop thinking that every woman that says "I got raped" is lying, or saying it 'cause they regretted a drunken one-night stand.
My mum was 16 when her boyfriend almost did it to her, he wouldn't back off until she PUSHED him away, she said no first though, and they weren't drunk.

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-07-23 17:01:58 +0000 UTC]

You seem to be willing to believe that women are always the put upon weak little fools. Maybe that's what's wrong...why can't females be the powerful one?

Men who are going to rape will rape regardless of silly girls with placards. They are doing fuck all but making themselves feel good.

I do love how everyone rolls out the 'personal experience'...pushing your luck is not raping someone. Big difference. He stopped...your mum's bf stopped. Neither of those are rape. They are just a lack of respect.

I have only ever had one good conversation about the sensible ins and outs of rape and that was with a man. A man who had been raped by another man. He could give all angles on it, and speaking to him makes you realise just how well women have it.

I don’t have time or patience to care about all the sluts who get punished for slutting it around completely rat arsed. If you are so drunk you can’t look out for yourself, how can you possibly expect to get home in one piece? Women need to take responsibility for themselves and not blame men for their inadequacies.

Women who are genuinely raped…I feel sorry for them, but no amount of signs is going to stop a rapist.

It doesn’t matter how rare a false accusation is…it does more damage. This is some guy’s life you are ruining. The emotional damage can heal but the damage to someone’s reputation by being labelled with rape wrongly won’t go away.

I used to think like you do, but with age and maturity I have changed my mind. I think respect is key. If you act like a silly girl you are making yourself a victim. The key to female equality and power is not to be the silly girl. I work in a male job, male environment, on construction sites, I have to have the respect of men enough to show them I am capable of making decisions which would normally be a male domain. If you go in as the silly girl you will get no respect. I go in as the engineer who just happens not to have a cock. None of these little girlies with signs are going to have power or respect.

I’d rather be surrounded by men than women. Too many women are fools, powerless, weak individuals. Funnily enough the only people I end up arguing with are girls. There’s a lot more sense comes from the male mind.

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-07-23 18:10:10 +0000 UTC]

I never said that women are weak. NOT ONCE.
And they'll rape regardless of dress too.  There was this girl who spoke out once, when some guys were saying it can be a girls fault for flaunting their body, her aunt got raped and she was wearing a full burka(sp?).

But why didn't they stop when the person said 'no'. Because that word, had no power any more, it's been taken away. That's what people say, no matter who it is, if "no" is said, it's very rare that a rapist would stop making the advances unless physically pushed away (also rare that they'll stop then). That is lack of respect for someone's decision, and it's horrible because not everyone has the strength to push back (i.e people who get their drinks spiked, not their fault. Even if you keep an eye on your drink, it could still happen).

I never said that. Women do need to take more care now, but like I said, in other cases it's rare to hear "too drunk", "under-dressed". Especially with men. Why? Because men are seen as stronger, men are more commonly known to have a higher tolerance for alcohol (that's why the units are different).

I never said it didn't do damage. But rape isn't the only thing that gets falsely accused. I've seen it with someone who got accused for a murder, even though his name was completely cleared and they found the right person. Some people that didn't know, still blamed him, ruined his life.

Yes respect is key, a woman should probably respect her body more and not show it off, "just in case", huh? Or she shouldn't "drink too much", or she should "watch herself". My dad said it too, he said when he was younger, women rarely had to worry about things like that, yet it's so different now, because of the lack of rapists put away.

And it's very rare that things like that happen, or if it does, the woman has to prove herself to the men. Sometimes, (what I've seen, I don't know about your experiences), she has to fit in, and be "one of the guys". Certain jobs like that, mainly with a male head (y'know the boss), won't hire a woman over a man, because she's "too weak" for it. That's not her fault. I've seen it with women who have better qualifications, and better experiences. I guess the boss lost out?

I'm not having this argument any more, my opinion won't change because of everything I've seen, and stories I've heard. I honestly think, (I'm not the only one, my parents said it too), way above my actual age. And that's because people around me (not parents), have forced me to grow up too quickly and see these horrible things in such a bright light.

I won't forgive rapists, and I won't forgive people who falsely accuse ANY crime.

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-07-23 18:21:28 +0000 UTC]

We're all allowed our views. I don't believe stories of any form, and I don't form my opinions on them.

But your whole reply does just reinforce the point that I made originally on that photograph...it has to be all about women, doesn't it?! That is a rhetorical question...I'm not trying to prolong the discussion.

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-07-23 18:33:46 +0000 UTC]

Yeah, my personal stories. Obviously I'm allowed MY opinions from what I've experiences.

Honestly you're the one who said that most women are weak. Go read your other message. I don't care any more.
My opinion is my opinion, not changing it for anyone or anything. Just as you probably won't change yours. This is pointless.

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-07-25 09:29:04 +0000 UTC]

You're allowed opinions, but it's just so cliché to roll out the 'I don't want to say X but I'm going to say it anyway'.

And yeah...I do think most women are weak. Weak, worthless child machines. Certainly not something I would want involved with. Those who shout to blame men...they need to take a look inside themselves.

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-07-25 11:47:25 +0000 UTC]

Yeah, and what I should have said in the first place is "Rapists are rapists, and victims are victims. Stop pulling out the gender card. (Maybe that girl shouldn't have wrote what she did (imo, she could've just put that everyone gets raped, not just woman). But a lot lately is because a woman showed a "little too much flesh" and a rapist (saying that, meaning it could've been a woman) decided "oh, she's showing off for me" when I, personally, doubt that very much. Clothing shouldn't affect thought, neither should flesh (yet somehow it does). A saying: "Yes means yes, and no means no" So even if a person (just so I'm not pulling out that gender card) is naked in front of someone that shouldn't mean that someone can do what they want, without permission). Someone who is falsely accused, is, no matter the gender, and it's wrong either way, it's especially wrong that it seems to only be men who are falsely accused, but not every woman is a monster, and not every woman is weak. Yet there's so many men who get offended if someone (usually another man) says "you hit like a girl", because yes, girls are usually portrayed as weak when they could probably flip any guy over. And no, I didn't want to bring it up, that's bad memories for me but I did it to try and SHOW you that most men need to be PUSHED back before stopping (and as I said some don't even stop then. so what if that guy didn't? I'd have worse memories. and what it would be MY fault for JUST saying "no", that's more than likely. Something comes out like "She didn't fight back". When some PEOPLE can't. Weather that be their choice (drinking alcohol) or not (i.e. spiked drinks | not stronger than the man | etc...(idk maybe they have something wrong with them)). 'Cause it's like you're forgetting some OLDER PEOPLE get raped too (again, usually weak at their age; that goes for children too). Age and gender don't matter. A rapist will rape. End of story."

Now, I'm not in a particularly good mood today, so it's best you just leave it at that.
I've already said that people who falsely accuse are in the wrong. That doesn't make every single victim in the wrong. Please stop talking like it does. You're allowed your opinion on certain women, not every single one, no-one is the same. (It's like a victim saying every (insert gender) is bad because they got raped by that gendered person. At first they might think that, but it's getting over the trauma, I doubt their rapist going free will help in anyway).

I'm not going to respond to any messages about this.
Rape infuriates me no matter what, no matter WHO.
Sorry for the longness.

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-08-01 21:08:55 +0000 UTC]

I don't care enough about your moods to leave it at that, although I've not been on this account for over a week so I'm sure your mood has changed. I don't have anything further I want to argue...I'm just saying that when you are an adult, there will be more important things to care about...you might even be able to have a bit of a light laugh on the topic (I know an awesome shirt with 'No means fuck yeah' on it...you have to be able to take a step back to enjoy a little humour).

I care about rape...but particularly male rape, which is why I have used it as a topic for writing.

But just for lol's lets consider this statement from you: " I did it to try and SHOW you that most men need to be PUSHED back before stopping". This is how you render your arguments invalid to someone. You can't make a judgement on all men...one or two men do not a gender make! Most men do not need pushed back. A few men do. Anyway, I have had to push back my partner occasionally when he's trying his luck at getting his leg over. Just because he is trying does not mean he would rape me...he is the soppiest man alive...he is just 'in the moment'. When reminded, he steps back. If not reminded, he would also stop. I wouldn't count these sorts of 'push backs' as being anything close to rape. It's just the heat of the moment. I take it as a compliment. But yeah, my point was, think before making your selling statement...because it made no sense. You can't say that 'most men' do anything. Also, caps lock doesn't make the point any more so!

You're welcome.

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-08-02 10:12:03 +0000 UTC]

Ah, so you don't like when I'm being biased about men. And I don't like it when you're being biased about women (y'know, you saying: "most of them are weak and powerless", me saying: "most men need a push")
So, if I can make the decision on making it seem like the whole gender is the same (although, I'm at least 90% sure that 'most' is not 'all', maybe I should have said 'some' instead.) Then you're argument about women must be invalid too, if my argument was 'rendered invalid', by a simple 'I'm just really frustrated now' mistake.
Also, that's you, you trust your boyfriend because you know him well enough to know he wouldn't rape you.
But with the guy I had the trouble with, it actually scared me when he didn't back off immediately, so I was afraid. And usually, when I'm afraid, I can't do much, it makes me feel weak and stuck, I'm glad I found the strength to push him back once or twice. It also made me feel guilty because he was dating my friend at the time. I wondered how he could do that to someone when he seemed perfectly happy with her. Or I'm probably assuming too much, idk, it happened three years ago. He ruined our friendship by telling her that I made a move on him, that made me angry, and it scared me knowing that he could easily lie his way out of something, and at the time (I was upset since she didn't want to hear my side), I just kept thinking "what if..." And then I remember how scared I was of him, and still so glad I got the courage to push him back.
I definitely did not take what he did as a compliment, especially the aftermath that followed. Also, since I wasn't with him, or doing remotely anything to make him "in the heat of the moment", I also doubt that very much.
When I get frustrated with things, I tend to caps without really thinking, horrible trait I have -____-; Surprised it hasn't creeped into my stories yet...

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-07-11 11:04:58 +0000 UTC]

This made me smile this morning. Sometimes the small scale of what I do makes me think 'why bother, who looks', especially now that I'm splitting my work over 2 accounts. But then I think, well I'm going to be doing it anyway so I might as well share it, even if it is only with a handful of people.

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-07-11 11:54:17 +0000 UTC]

Well, I'm glad it got you smiling
Ah, I think it's good that you're sharing it <3

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structuresque In reply to midgardart [2013-05-08 09:46:14 +0000 UTC]

no problem

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structuresque In reply to KylieRussell666 [2013-04-21 18:59:38 +0000 UTC]

Hi! I love your paintings. I just draw to amuse myself.
The graveyard plot was my treat to myself...I spend far too much money on Wednesday 13 stuff!

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2013-04-10 18:25:24 +0000 UTC]

Thank you! <3

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2013-04-10 18:42:09 +0000 UTC]

No problem! <3

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2012-09-28 08:37:11 +0000 UTC]

thanks

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2012-09-28 12:43:17 +0000 UTC]

No problem!

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2012-09-19 15:10:35 +0000 UTC]

no probs

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2012-08-15 21:22:28 +0000 UTC]

thankoos

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2012-08-15 21:24:04 +0000 UTC]

No problem!

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structuresque In reply to DailyBird [2012-08-12 17:03:00 +0000 UTC]

Thank you very much.

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DailyBird In reply to structuresque [2012-08-13 21:47:55 +0000 UTC]

You're very welcome, sweetie ^^ Thank you so much for the watch

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structuresque In reply to iMorbid [2012-08-11 17:19:10 +0000 UTC]

Thankoos

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iMorbid In reply to structuresque [2012-08-11 17:21:38 +0000 UTC]

No problem <3

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2012-07-31 16:38:22 +0000 UTC]

Thank you so much! I really, really appreciate that. Writing is my little bit of sanity and I'm always hoping people will see what I share here. I have been writing fics since I was about 13...so 10 years and I only started sharing them in the past 6 months or so.
I work as a civil engineer so it's numbers, numbers, numbers...I like to step away and writing is my 'me time'.

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chee-wee In reply to structuresque [2012-07-31 17:16:17 +0000 UTC]

It's seriously no problem! I really love your work
So I do hope it helps you out in anyway, they need more eyes on them! :3
I know exactly how you feel! Except I don't work; BUT it's always nice to just escape a little, writing definitely helps me do that xD
Since you're kind enough to watch me back I'm going to dedicate this new Joesday OneShot I'm writing to you Thanks

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structuresque In reply to chee-wee [2012-07-31 17:23:01 +0000 UTC]

Oooh, thank you!

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