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and mother watches you fly"i watch you grow, to let you go"
mary
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leaving the nest is one of the scariest things a human being has to do. even if your home life was absolutely awful and you have waited patiently for the day you could leave - its still scary. we often become "comfortable" in what is familiar - whether it was pleasurable or not. some of us struggle to leave our "family" in any sense and find it very frightening and some of us create our home environment in our new lives unconsciously b/c its what we find familiar and therefore somewhat comfortable b/c just maybe we think we can control it b/c we believe we know what comes next. for others, they know home is always "there" if they need it to regroup and there is nothing like "family" if its proven to be secure. whichever take you have on "family", one thing is sure, leaving the nest is a pivotal time in anyone's life and part of your family will stay with you, somehow, forever. hopefully its something that can be treasured and not haunting.
its a great big scary world out there folks 
hopefully they've prepared you for it 
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3rd and final in this series
1st - [link]
2nd - [link]
a tripanel of all three together will be submitted next and that is indeed how i feel they "should" be presented. the problem with a tripanel on DA is that you have to reduce the size of the three images to get them all to fit appropriately in one frame that is still only 900 pixels on its largest size to get it to full view properly on DA
that reduction does indeed take away some of the power of the individual images and i felt each one deserved their own spotlight as a result. however i do hope that shown together a sort of cohesiveness and storytelling is struck amongst those that bother to view it
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First of all I must say that the contrast and clarity is just beautiful! I love the concept of this whole series. It is well exectued. The blacck and white make it timeless. IThe emotions in the models (even apparent in the way the girl is standing) give this a somber mood. If I were to critique anything I would say that it should be cropped perhaps a bit on the left side to balance it out more. Lovely pic
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i need that space on the left to make the mother appear far enough away as is appropriate for the message of the photo. a tighter crop i feel would bring them closer together as subjects and i didn't want that - i needed that space.
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Ah
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It's odd how perfectly timed this piece seems to be. I graduated on Friday. I officially left the comfort that was the Class of 2005. I knew all of those people's names - almost all of us have been together since Kindergarden. It's scary to know I won't have that again. And I've got my college orientation in about a month, then a month from that time I'll start commuting to college. Sure, I will still be at home - but I'll be making my own choices as to when I come and go - my future is beginning.
This picture really embodies that. It embodies these big changes - growing up, gaining responsibility. I'm afraid to have to take up so much responsibility... I know I will be able to do it, but I feel like now I have so much to learn from my father about how to make good monetary decisions, and I have to learn from my mother how to not give up on people and situations.
I feel like leaving my family will hurt more - because my family was never truly a tight knit bunch. We all just sort of go about our business, and every so often we bump into each other. So as I see people pass away, and other move away it's sad to know that the closest we ever were is gunna be gone. And even worse than that - I feel more attatched to my boyfriends family. They are so warm and friendly. They always get together at least once a month and the farthest one uncle lives in about an hour away. They have always had a close family, and I've become a part of that. Do you think it's wrong to feel that they in some ways embody more of a family to me than my own - even though I always know I can come back to my home and be comforted?
Hmm... so much to think about - these pieces really got me thinking about my relationships. I feel from this that there is always time to look back on our past. Someone will always be there for us - if we let them - and even if it feels like everyone is gone, the memory is not. The past happened - it is solid. But our futures - we shape them NOW. So we must be strong, hold our heads up, and take wise steps.
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I think its fine to feel "closer" to a family outside of your own. Number one - its easier for that family b/c they don't have to deal with the hardships of your life or their personal life with you on the same level as your family has had to. Plus they only get you at intervals - as close as you may be to them, you don't get it 100% like you do with family. That's what makes family - family. The good and bad all mixed together if you ask me. Its "surviving" life together that makes family.
I went away to college but came home on the weekends a lot since it was close. It was hard for me to leave 100% b/c of the problems at home I felt that my presence helped keep some things together. Its definitely a scary time but its also very exciting. So happy for you!!
Thanks for the long comment. I'm glad these photos provoke feeling - that was 100% the intent.
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This is lovely, I love the concept. I was able to go back a little into my life just by looking at this, and wonder If I was truely prepared for life, and if I am able to prepare my children for life.
Having a disabled child makes it that little bit harder, though I think if I can lead by example, then possibly everything else will fall into place.
Very nice indeed....
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your child is disabled? what do you have to deal with? what do they have to deal with? i have a friend who has a child confined to a wheelchair pretty much since they were a toddler. but in her case, she reminds me that its others that have any strangeness regarding that - that her child is in a very happy childlike state.
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My boy has Hyper IgE syndrome, which means he has an immune disease. He is unable to eat most foods, or be out and about in many situations due to sensitivities and infection, but mostly the body is attacked by his own immune system. It is severe to the point he has life threatning allergies and he gets very sick with lung disfunction, and the immune system attacks his joints with a form of arthritis. But, as much as it sounds horrible, he is a happy thriving boy. He loves things all 12 year olds like, he gets a little sad when he can't do what his friends do, but he deals with it.
As I said in my previous comment, I am only hoping that I can prepare him for life, to be able to function with as much independance as he can achieve, and encourage him into seeing that the sky is the limit, in what he may choose to make of his life.
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how wonderful and special is he to strive and find a way and desire to be a happy 12 year old! i admire him already! and you 
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Thankyou for those kind words, it lifted my spirit a little
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mary this one is great! the tripanel is going to look awesome and i am very anxious to see it. is this natural lighting??? looks great! leaving the nest is definitely hard you did a great job at capturing this concept!
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yeah - about 9:45 a.m. (don't know why my camera reading says pm? 
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Ahhh...this one makes me sad...because I know soon enough, I will be doing this...just as you will be doing...watching our little ones become independent and explore on their own with out us...
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trust me - it totally chokes me up to even think about. i cry at every stage of development b/c i see it as one step further away from needing me
and i have your baby bucket photo but can't get it from my site right now - will you re-email it to chickfoos@yahoo.com
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I know!!! It must be so hard! I am not looking forward to that part.
I just sent it to that addy!!
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awesome piece, love the angle and the fact that it is in black and white!
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I love the idea and execution of this...I'm 20, have been "away" from home (at boarding school, then europe, then college) for 7 years and I don't think my mom has gotten complete closure yet... its a difficult spot to be in, for both of us I think. Every time I come home, things get a little more "interesting".
This really speaks to my heart. I think the triptych will be fantastic.
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i've been going through all sorts of reconnections to my childhood and my current relationship with my mothers since i BECAME a mother
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I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE those last shots. THis is especially very beautiful and so meaningful and sooooooooooooooooooooo greatly captured 
This is an instant fav for sure.
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This is a very moving series. I love the characters in your pictures - they have such strong expressions (facial and body). As for subject matter, it is what drew me in to the pictures. I feel what you are saying. These are scary feelings but it is SO good to see them in a photo. It actually makes things better. Beautiful.
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You know, I feel that these have been, maybe not perhaps your best 'concept', but certainly your most beautifuly executed one. What I like most about this one in particular, is the mother in the white nightgown. It seems ghostly.. like she's an apparition, a memory, that the girl is looking back to, for guidance perhaps, as she takes those first steps away and into independance. And your tones, ooooh your tones - so beautiful and RICH in detail. Just gorgeous.
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thank you amanda
gotta love black and white and natural light eh?
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You've captured a pretty original take on such a common representation. It's kind of ironic, actually, that you used this topic (I'm graduating high school this weekend, and I leave for college in August)...your description, and the allegory present in every grain of the pic certainly are very relative to people such as myself...great job with that.
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thank you for taking your time to let me know how it affected you.
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You welcome.
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